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I went to a funeral yesterday. It was the funeral of a 97 year old lady who I had befriended in her last year of life, to take her out for a ‘much-needed breath of fresh air’, being someone who was confined to her little home and unable to go out unless in a wheelchair. There weren’t a lot of humans at the funeral, just family. I was an ‘outsider’, only having briefly met one of them who had invited me to the funeral. I quickly learned that, detached from nearest family, numerous of them had not seen each other for numerous years. Isn’t it always the case, that relations seldom meet unless at weddings and funerals? The deceased did not see a good deal of of them. She was a deeply lonely lady, craving company like she’d had when young. Although crippled, her mind was as active as a 20 year old. It’s ofttimes at funerals we rekindle family relationships, with each intent of meeting up more often, but for a great deal of reason we slip back into old habits, caught up with work and play, and do not fulfil those promises, even altho they’re promises made from the heart, and with the best intentions. So what happens? Recently, Prince Andrew was reported as saying “I believe fundamentally that the family is the most important thing in life”. And this faith in all probability holds unfeigned for most people, but like the diet we have each intent on going on, or the cigarettes we have each intent on giving up, we just don’t get around to it, ofttimes until it’s too late. It’s the same with family and children. Do we grab the moment now, savor our time with our children, or wait until they’ve grown up and are caught up in their own lives? I know this is posing no difficulty said than done, but often, nevertheless tight we are for time, most persons are more than willing and competent to make time for things that matter to them. There are persons who have passions in life, be it water sports or model trains, who will make time whatsoever to pursue those passions. So, given that we are so caught up in work, DIY, housework, and life, how do we make time for the family? 1. Strong families make it a priority to spend time together, and are committed to each other. This does not have to mean organizing great days out, but doing daily tasks such as running errands, household chores or playing games together. Have a observe board in a prominent place in your home, with a daily REMINDER that your family comes first. This may seem crazy, but our hectic lifestyles with work and school mean we may often forget to take time out and work on our family relationships. 2. Ask yourself, why am I so busy? What am I doing, and is it helping to beef up our family, or causing us to be apart more often? Is what I am doing actually worth it? You may find that, when you stop and think with regards to it, there may be actions you may cut out, or you may find ways of managing your time more effectively. 3. Some of those issues that have been primary to you, on reflection, you may be competent to re-prioritize. For example, household chores, like cleaning, or not permitting your kids to do ‘messy’ actions like painting or cooking. Being less fastidious when it comes to such issues may unlock time for being together and having fun. 4. Is your child attending lots of after-school clubs? Some parents like to feel that their child is constantly occupied and profiting new interests, and this is great, if that is what they are in truth doing. If a child loves doing galore activities, that is good, but a good deal of children like to have time-out to relax at home, and often, following one or two interests or hobbies allows them to be grateful for and put more time into them than to cram lots of interests into their routine. 5. Switch the television off. Make space to talk to each other. It may be a nice action to watch a program together, but in general looking at TV is not a social activity. In fact, more many times than not, it gets in the way of social interaction. 6. Aim to have at least one meal a day together as a family. This is a difficult one if you have teenagers who have an active social life of their own, but notwithstanding possible, make sure everyone gets together to talk regarding their day, part ideas, thoughts and feelings. It may require a modify in mealtimes to accommodate everyone, or a new ‘number one rule of the house’. 7. Try to establish something your whole family enjoys doing together, like a hobby, or a form of exercise, cycling or hiking. This may give a mutual interest that all may take delight in together and talk about. If you’ve got a difficult teenager, then find his or her motivation, and organise numerous days and actions for the whole family around that. As parents you are the ‘figureheads’ of the family, so the obligation is yours to fetch the family together. Doing so will fetch you closer, aid you to take pleasure in your family, and hopefully give your children a great deal of great memories as well as examples to follow when they are grown up and have children of their own! |
